BDSM Basic Questions

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Is it Safe?

In my case, absolutely, everything I do is consensual, which means all participants agree with it and I am extremely concerned with physical safety, hygiene and the mental health of my slaves. But as with any situation, there are people out there that don’t play too safely, as for instance they will take hard drugs before or during a scene. That removes the control from the dominant and of course makes things rather sketchy… Yet the level of safety has more to do with the people involved rather than the activities they are engaging in.

Isn’t it really “hard core”?

It can be, but only once you become more experienced in it.  

Are there different levels of Domination?

Not only levels but styles. From Beginner to experienced, wherever you are that’s a level. As for styles, it all depends on the people involved and what they are into. For example, some people may be into heavy pain wile others like adoration, as foot worship.

 Is it about pain \ humiliation \ power or lack of power?

Again, it depends on the person, but it’s not ALL about pain. Yet, most BDSM has some level of power exchange.

Normal people don’t do this do they?

What is your definition of “normal”? If you mean mentally stable, then of course yes. Playing in BDSM doesn’t categorize you as insane. If you mean “average”, then the answer is in general no. BDSM is rather complex and people with average intelligence usually do not have the mental capacity to challenge their social conditioning and take a step into that unknown, unusual experience.

What kind of people like this kind of interaction?

The majority of serious players are successful business people or groups with a higher than average income, and  with a flare for extravagance and decadence. BDSM play usually involves lots of toys, fetish clothes, and other equipment and most of this stuff is expensive. There are exceptions to the rule of course. And as I said before, people who are seriously into this tend to more intelligent than the average person. Recently BDSM has become more “popular” with loads of people flocking to parties like Wasteland. I can tell you from personal experience the majority of them is not into REAL BDSM interaction. They dress up in fetish clothes, get high on drugs, and go to the party to dance and fuck. BDSM is a lot deeper than that.

What’s the sexual kick?

That depends on the role you take. The submissive gets a kick out of losing control and being used and owned like an object. It may sound crazy, but that actually gives one an immense feeling of freedom. Explain freedom to and freedom from.

Now the dominant has the exact opposite turn on. The knowledge that someone is giving themselves to you, the power you can exert on another person WITH THEIR CONSENT, it’s a huge ego trip. Mental and emotional manipulation is an incredibly fun game. Most people in the world do it, especially females. But in my case it is CONSENTED. My slaves WANT to be manipulated. So we are both happy playing our complementary roles.

What equipment is used?

Again that depends on the interaction and on the person. Let me show you some of my toys.

What Costumes are used?

Whatever turns you on. I love Victorian gowns and corsets, but of course, because I like variety, I have LOADS of different styles of costumes. Many people are into Latex and Leather.

 What kind of role’s are played?

It all depends on your imagination. Nurse and patient, Teacher and student, Boss and secretary, the possibilities are endless!

What other services do you do?

I don’t provide a service. I do what I like with my slaves. If their kink happens to be in my list of enjoyed activities, then lucky for them. If not, then they can find someone else. I don’t make compromises with slaves. It’s my way or the highway. And if by services you mean sexual services, then the answer is NONE. I do not blow slaves, but I’ll spit on them. I don’t wank slaves, but I’ll tie up their privates and whip them, and I definitely don’t have sex with them, unless of course I’m wearing a strap-on…